Church of Tzaddi

Experiencing the infinite, loving, co-creative presence of the Divine

10. Reconciliation Min

Caring Lesson 10. Reconciliation

Summary of skill

  • Being more present with the tensions inherent in our learning path as spiritual beings having an earthly experience, then acting as a bridge between Heaven & Earth in order to bring harmony to the situation at a deeper, more profound level of being
  • Energy level: You are building harmony. The first step is recognizing the tension; second step is smoothing our energy and observing and reflecting on what is actually happening (as opposed to our fantasies and projections); next step is asking, “How is this supporting us?”; next step is actively joining the flow, aka “surrender”; next step is integrating these energy shifts by actively reconciling at the 3D, personality/physical level, observing the usual rules of discernment, rhythm & right timing, etc.
  • Reconciliation begins inside you and then you can share the opportunity for reconciliation with others; this might be in a spiritual counseling setting, or it might be in a family setting, or it might be in a community, etc., depending on the areas of your focus for caring for souls


  • Discussion:The spiritual path contains challenges as well as celebrations, and some of these challenges test us and bring up material and experiences that can be deeply uncomfortable. Some of the “classic” challenges on the path are dealing with impermanence and our attachment to things being the way we want them to be; acknowledging suffering and making sense of a world with suffering, including our sense of being betrayed and abandoned; and the inherent tension between individuality and Oneness, and differing levels of vibrational reality.Spiritual developmental challenges can result in estrangement, or a split within us, from our path, life, God, etc. To reconcile means “to restore friendly relations after an estrangement,” “to harmonize,” “to bring a person back into peace.” Even if we can’t get all the way there, we practice reconciliation. Reconciliation is a part of integrative spirituality, of walking our talk as spiritual practitioners.

    Initially, “reconciliation” can simply mean “not running away” or “giving up denial.” (e.g., Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s five stage model of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance). Eventually, “reconciliation” means “consent to joining the flow,” “welcoming” or “embracing.” For some religious people, this might be expressed as,  “Thy will be done,” framed in the terms of their faith tradition. For some metaphysical people, it might be “following the flow.”

    Usually we experience resistance before we are able to embrace our challenges. One spiritual teacher, Duane Packer, defines the measure of mastery not as some ideal of being “perfect” all the time—however ego defines that—but rather, by how quickly we notice that we have lost our way, and get back into learning.

  • Partner exercise: In your spiritual journey as a soul, what is your most alive, current opportunity for reconciliation? How is it supporting you? How is it supporting the people around you who are also involved in this situation? How are you, or are you not, surrendering/actively joining the flow? Client presents and facilitator supports using Active Compassionate Listening. Switch roles. Write up your session as client and write up your session as facilitator using the Practicum form (you can download the form using the link below).

Resources for reflection & discussion

  • Core Lesson 002, Amy Skezas, Integrative Spirituality, pp. 1- 7, “Introduction,” “Principles,” “Amy’s Model: Divine Love Lives in My Heart,” “Receptivity,” “Enlightenment & Integration,” “Amy’s Model: Integrative Spirituality”