Partnering Lesson 9. Celebration
Summary of skill
- Joining with others in celebration of the perfection of being
- To genuinely bring this celebration in the face of suffering, we must reside in our awareness in a place that can reconcile with the suffering, and, in our hearts with compassion. It can help to have a more expanded view of the situation, for example, beyond the boundaries of this moment, this day, this week, this month, this year, perhaps even this lifetime. Things are always shifting and changing; what is happening is just one phase or expression of being, in a much longer game; yet, we must be present with it, and join with it, and one of the most powerful ways to join with suffering is to go into it, in a state of acceptance of “what is,” and then, to celebrate it. What opportunity is being presented in this situation for learning and growth?
- Your “ideas” about how to “fix” things are not likely to be really helpful and likely come from your own discomfort with the situation. Let the flow show you what would be helpful, leading you and the person you are helping to a place of being together.
- Partner Exercise: What parts of you are not able or willing to join with someone else in celebration? When they come up, how do you receive them? What did you learn about celebration as a child? Whose celebration inspires you? What gets you into a celebratory frame of being?
Resources for reflection & discussion
- Tenzin Gyatso, H.H. 14th Dalai Lama, Essence of Refined Gold, pp. 124 – 131 on suffering